How to make better choices
How to Make Better Choices
Almost everything we do in life is a choice. To get out of bed in the morning is a choice. To go to work and do your job and pay your rent and take chances and risks, are all choices. To eat unhealthy foods knowing you will gain weight and increase fat and cholesterol and your risk for heart disease are all choices. To get married, or stay in an unhappy marriage or have children, again all these things are our choices.
Every choice has a consequence. Sometimes the consequences are good, sometimes they’re not. Either way, there is always a choice and a consequence that goes along with it. In my own personal opinion it is quite empowering to realize and exercise your ability to choose. That’s a whole lot better than leaving your life or your successes to chance. I would rather ensure my success by making better choices than leaving my life, my opportunities and my success up to a roll of the dice.
How often do you hear someone say, “I didn’t have a choice”? As awful as the options may be, there is always a choice. If you choose to go out with friends or colleagues when you know you should be preparing for a test or a presentation that is your choice. If you don’t pass the test, or you don’t do as well as you know you were capable of on the presentation you will know you really have no one to blame but yourself. That’s called taking responsibility for our actions.
Every choice moves us closer to or farther away from something. Where are your choices leading your life? When you are facing a challenge or an opportunity ask yourself, “Is this going to bring me closer to or farther away from what I want?” And then depending on your answer, you choose.
Sometimes you will have to choose between two crummy options. Even though both of the options are terrible, there is still a choice. Not choosing is choosing. If you want better things, you have to make better choices. If you want more money you have to make choices that will provide you with more money. If you want a better relationship, you have to make choices that encourage a better relationship.
Most people don’t stop and think. They just do. If you can create a new habit of stopping whatever you are doing and simple ask, what are the consequences if I make this choice? You will make better decisions and create a better life for yourself.
Each day you have the opportunity to make better choices to improve your health, lifestyle or relationship. If you choose to repeat the same way of thinking and doing things, you’ll get the same outcome as you always have.
If you want a different result, you must do things and think differently. The decisions that you make will determine your next course of actions and hence the consequences.
Your choices will lead to success or failure, health or illness and pain or pleasure. You can opt for rest instead of work, entertainment instead of studying or remain poor or become wealthy.
Most of your decisions were made from your collection of stored ideas, thoughts, beliefs, values and assumptions. If you continue to use the same style of thinking and referencing and make bad choices and judgments, nothing is going to change. You’ll repeat the same mistakes and errors.
To live is to choose. But to choose well, you must know who you are and what your stand for, where you want to go and why you want to get there.” — Kofi Annan
Change the way you think
You attract into your life the people and situations from your habitual and unconscious thoughts.